General Advice

More Than One Partner – Is It Acceptable?

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Even though I advocate treating all women with the respect they are due, that doesn’t mean I believe in dating only one woman at a time.

I heartily encourage every man who is not in a committed relationship to date as many women as he can.

But is this wrong?

Of course not.  If you haven’t committed to a woman, it’s absolutely fine to do whatever you want.  Don’t be

surprised then, if she does the same to you.  My advice if that happens is to immediately dump her.  While you’ll be happy whoring about, I don’t recommend you put yourself in a position where you are the cuckold.


The reason that this behaviour is acceptable is twofold:

• It’s not 1952
• If you’re not lying and you’re not cheating, there is no unwritten law saying you can only have 1 lover.

The reason I am writing this post right now is that, if you have followed my previous advice you may well have more than 1 woman interested in you  You might have been in the position of being romantically entangled with more than 1 woman at a time and didn’t know what to do.  You might even be feeling guilty or anxious about this.

Please don’t.

Never promise a woman you don’t intend to marry that you will be exclusive.  If she doesn’t like it, bang her and dump her.

There are too many woman, and not enough time.  You’ll never be able to get through them all anyway, and you have zero chance if you’re going to adopt the morals of a Quaker.

Spadework. Preparation is Key.

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The key to long lasting success with women is this simple thing.  Spadework.

You might not know what I mean by that, so here’s a brief explanation:

Spadework is the groundwork you lay, before you lay the woman.  It’s the preparation you put in before you make your pentultimate move.

Now, generally, guys who don’t get many chicks will do this:

• Try to convince the girl he likes that he’s a nice guy
• Keep trying to convince her of this until he realises that she’s never going to shag him, because he’s found himself in the dreaded Friend Zone

That is spadework, but the only thing you’re digging is a grave for your manhood.


Here is how a moderately successful with women guy will do his Spadework:

• Make sure he meets the strange new hottie
• Introduces himself
• Has brief conversations with her, to find out what he needs to know (married, straight, fake tits, that sort of thing)
• Keeps the contact going by saying Hi every day, smiling at her, checking her out subtly yet obviously

That’ll work, for the short-term

Now, here’s how a guy who’s never short of a date will do it:

• Do all the above that the moderately successful guy will do
• Do it with every woman you feel even slightly attracted to
• All the time
• Ensure she knows you are interested, but make sure you don’t come right out with it, keep some
  mystery.

Every interaction with an attractive woman should center around getting her to the stage where she thinks you’re about to ask her out.  Keep them hanging.

Remember not to fawn over her, she’s a woman, there are billions of them.  Be slightly aloof, but receptive to what she says.  Be every so slightly arrogant and don’t boast like mad to impress her.  Show her how awesome you are by being a stand-out sort of guy (in a good way, don’t be the office retard or anything like that) and pretend you don’t notice her attention.  Catch her eye often and smile sometimes, other times just look away as though you haven’t noticed.

Women are hooked on these sorts of games and probably don’t even know it.

Start practising this and it will become second nature.  Soon enough, you will have many, many potential dates and you’ll never have another dry spell again.

Stay Out Of The Friend Zone

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Why the hell does nobody listen to this?

If you find a woman attractive and really want to get with her or on her, don’t be friends with her.

Don’t carry her books to class, don’t talk about her ex with her.

1. It’s dishonest.  Being friends with a woman just so you can get into her pants is not fair.
2. It doesn’t work.
3. Why would you want to be friends with a woman?

What you’ve got to realise about women is that often, although they pretend to be modest and down-play their looks, they secretly think they are really hot.  Especially if they get loads of male attention.


Women like that think that men want to be friends with them simply because they have a sparkling personality and nothing at all do with their looks.

So, there are HUGE opportunities with that sort of woman.  Most men want to be fwends (sic) and the man who doesn’t, who just isn’t interested in playing her stupid games, who doesn’t pander to her every whim, is suddenly very interesting indeed.

That’s the subject of another post, so let’s get back to why you should stay right out of the Friend Zone.

• Women don’t see friends as potential lovers
• Once you’re in the Friend Zone, it’s very difficult to get out.  Women will refuse to believe you just wanted to be friends to get close to her, so they’ll find it very difficult to accept that you want to be ‘more than just friends’.
• By hanging out with someone you desperately want to be with, you’re exposing yourself to all sorts of heartache when she tells you all about the men she’s been with and is currently going with.

Definitely review your tactics when you start being nicey-nicey to a woman you want to have a physical relationship with.

Briefly, as I’ll go into it in more depth in posts to come, use this type of strategy instead:

• Ensure from the word ‘GO’ that Miss X is aware of your desire to be physically intimate with her.
• NEVER outright tell her that though, at this stage anyway.  This’ll keep her on her toes.
• Once you’ve known her long enough to know she won’t boil your bunnes, ask her out.  Directly and without apprehension.

No wasted time hanging around with her, hoping she’ll see what a great guy you are.  Instant ‘yes’ or ‘no’.  If it’s a ‘yes’, great, make arrangements, YOU make the arrangements.  If she says ‘no thanks’ or even ‘lol no way’, don’t become angry or aggressive, be polite and move on.

Learn To Take No For An Answer

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There are a million reasons why a woman will find a particular man attractive and very few of them make sense.  One thing I do know for sure is this:

Not every woman is going to find you attractive, or even likeable.

No matter how good looking, charming, rich or well endowed you are.  Some women just don’t want to be with you.

Now, if you’re not good looking, charming or rich and are lacking in the trouser department you may find that most women don’t want to be with you.

What you need to remember is that you only need 1 woman at a time.

If a woman doesn’t want to be with you, so what?  If you’ve pinned all your hopes on getting that one girl you’ve admired for ages, and it’s taken all your courage to go and speak to her, then you really need to take on board what I’m telling you here.

If you approach a woman and make your move and you strike out, what have you lost?  Absolutely nothing.

Only teenagers laugh about their mates striking out.  Adults will think ‘Wow, I was I had Dave’s balls.  He just goes up to any woman he wants’

If you want a woman, and you only get 1 woman because every other woman has rejected you, well then you’ve won, because you’re reached your goal of getting laid. In reality however, unless you are an absolute freak with like 3 eyes or something, you can get more than 1 woman easily.

Until you develop massive confidence with picking up women, use the numbers game.  Here’s the technique I recommend:

• Grow a pair.  Approach women.  Learn to take ‘no’ for an answer.  It’s easy, try it a few times, feel a bit shit about yourself.  Feel less shit about yourself every time you get rejected.  Eventually you won’t give a damn.
• Every time you see a slightly attractive woman, talk to her.  Make your intentions clear.  I’m not saying, ‘hey beautiful, fancy a quickie’, but don’t be coy like a little girl.  Speak to her, tell her you find her attractive and would she like to meet for a coffee/drink’
• Do this every day – At the gas station, at work, in the supermarket, everywhere.  After a couple of days of this, it will be 2nd nature and you’ll find the results spectacular.  You won’t get to date or bed every woman you approach, and maybe only 1 woman a week will agree to go out with you, but that’s 1 woman more than you would have had previously.

Being scared to approach women is holding you back.  The only way to conquer that is to force yourself to approach every woman you like the look of and try to pick her up.

Remember, rejection is not failure.

A – It will hone your communication techniques so that you do it better next time.

B – You will learn to handle rejection better each time.

C – Not every woman will find you attractive or even likeable.

Try this simple technique out for 1 week and if you don’t pick up more women than you did sitting in a corner sucking your thumb and waiting for women to come to you, I’ll eat my hat.