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How To Break Up With Someone

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I bet you’ve wondered more than once, about how to break up with someone.

There probably is no ‘best way’ as nobody is gonna be happy at being dumped. But there are ways that inconvenience you less.

As we’ve already seen, there are clear indications of when a relationship has run its course, and in those situations, it’s definitely the best idea just to be a man and break up with her.

How to break up with someone is a skill that every lady’s man must have, if for no other reason than being able to be single at a moment’s notice when something better comes along.

So, there are many methods I’ve used in my life, but I would say that the best methods are possibly the harshest.

I will, at this stage, state that I believe that it’s ok to break up with someone for any reason whatsoever and you should feel no guilt. Everyone is a grown-up and capable of dealing with being dumped and if they’re not they shouldn’t be dating in the first place.

So, here are my methods…

How To Break Up With Someone

The One Sided Dumping

This is the one I have used to great success. It’s my favourite and I know it’s a bit mean, but I don’t make promises of a long-lasting anything to the women I will dump this way.

I have a set of things I want to achieve in any casual relationship with a woman. They’re all sex related so I won’t name them here, suffice to say, when I’ve accomplished those goals, I generally have no more need to be in a relationship with that particular woman. Generally this is anyone from a week to a couple of months down the line when I invariably get bored. With the one sided dumping technique, when I realise I’m bored, I just act as though I’m single. I don’t tell her, I just carry on as though we never met. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls. Anything.

A lot of people are gonna say ‘oo that Casanova’s a real coward’, but no, he’s not. I don’t have to explain my actions to anyone. If a woman dumps me, which happens ALL the time, and never contacts me to tell me, I just move on. I reframe my perceptions so instead of whining like a baby, I think, ‘great, free time to do with what I wish’.

If you accept even one call or respond to one text or email, you’ll end up in a big mess, trying to explain why you don’t want to be with her any more. You don’t need that. Half the time they’re hysterical and angry and might even get violent or aggressive.

And here’s the awesome, and incredibly bizarre icing on the cake.

I’ve often met women I’ve dumped in this fashion further down the road and hardly any of them are angry with me. Sometimes I’ve even shagged them again. I guess if you’re not directly saying, ‘you’re ugly, you have bad hygiene, shit tits, crap in bed, terrible taste in music’ etc then they might not realise you don’t want to be anywhere near them and may develop a fantastical justification for your non-communication.

The Direct Approach

People who only ever have to break up with a couple of people in their lives will probably tell you that this is the fairest and kindest way of doing it. I don’t agree.

I certainly don’t like being on the receiving end of it. Having my faults dictated to me by a self-righteous ex is not my idea of a good time.

It’s simple though. You must say to the dumpee ‘we need to talk’. That’s an absolute must. Who cares if it’s a cliché, they’ll know exactly what’s gonna happen, so at least you’ve avoided the surprise freakout. Then just say, ‘look, this isn’t working. It’s not you, it’s me, I’m just not ready for a relationship like this. It’s been great and I’m sure you’ll meet someone better than me who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.’

Congratulations, you’ve hurt someone’s feelings and they’re right in front of you. And now you’ll have to go through hours of begging or recriminations or temper tantrums or any other number of negative behaviours.

The Jerk Method

Hmm, I have used this. Most of the time inadvertently.

Again it’s simple. Once you’re sick of her, act like you’re sick of her.

All the nice stuff you did for her when you were first trying to get into her panties. Stop it.

No more presents, don’t spend any money on her at all. Be selfish in bed. I’m sure you know how to do that. Wash less, demand she wear more make-up and be less accepting of her faults.

Check out other women openly. Ask her if she minds if you watch porn while you’re making love. Magazine porn. Over her face.

She won’t put up with this for too long, and the longer she does, the more of a jerk you become.

This method allows you to, rather selectively, avoid any guilt. All you’ve done is act like the jerk you really are, so whatever.

Those should cover all the ‘best’ ways of breaking up with someone. You might just say, ‘screw this’ and just send her a text message saying ‘cya bitch’ but then you should be ashamed of yourself.

Now, one thing you may not have bargained for are the feelings of guilt, loss, etc that can arise once you’ve dumped her. The best solution for that is to simply start seeing someone else, and in the meantime go out with your friends and have a ‘few’ beers.

How To Talk To Girls – The Opening Line

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How to talk to girls – I would bet that more bullshit has been written about that topic than anything else on the planet.

There are books on the subject. People sell courses on how to perfect the ultimate chat-up line. It’s incredible. And I’m sorry to announce that they simply don’t work.

The wittiest, most incredible opening line ever conceived can just fall flat on its face. Women aren’t robots, they’re not computers you can program and elicit a pre-ordained response from a set series of instructions.

In fact they’re exactly the opposite. They’re unpredictable in their tastes, sometimes illogical and often irrational.

So how can you get around this? And how am I going to show you how to start a conversation with a woman. Any woman.

First of all, you need to realise that knowing how to talk to girls is simple, it’s a numbers game.

If you want to be the sort of guy who meets women in unexpected places, who isn’t shy to ask any woman out and has a multitude of options on a Friday night, then you’ll need to be able to handle rejection. You could be Brad Pitt and have a 12 inch knob and women would still reject you. So when you start a conversation with a woman and you strike out, mentally shrug your shoulders and move on.

How To Talk To Girls

Secondly, and this is the easy, but strangely overlooked part, just say Hi.

Yup, any conversation can start with ‘Hello, how are you?’

Think about it. How have you greeted girlfriends in the past?

Did you say something juvenile, hoping to make her laugh so that she would talk to you? Obviously not. This however is the strategy of millions of men. That’s way more a random and stupid method than I would put my faith in.

Some dork once said ‘A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet’. Lame as it is, that’s totally true. When you start talking to these women, assume a certain degree of familiarity.

If you’re stuck after ‘how are you?’ then you probably need more help than I can give you, but let’s just say you do…

In a bar – Would you like a drink?
On the street – Call me forward but I’ll never get the chance to speak with you unless I do so now. Have you got time to grab a coffee?
In a supermarket – You can always tell what a woman is like by what’s in her basket; will you show me your basket?

Those are just examples. Unless you are confident in your approach, asking a woman to show you her basket may get you a slap.

Remember to have a light manner and not be too serious. Smile and don’t leer. Ask her name, give her yours and shake her hand.

The final step – Get out there and do it!

How To Stop Being Scared Of Rejection

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How to start a conversation with a woman may be the most nerve-wracking and difficult thing a man may ever have to do. And you know what? There’s no reason for it to be so.

Women aren’t monsters who will claw your face off just for daring to speak at them, and let’s face it, the more nervous you are the less likely you are to make a good impression.

Essentially you’re speaking to a stranger, but most people don’t have a problem with that. Unless they want to score with that stranger. Do you get nervous when you ask a waitress for a drink? Or say Hi to a cashier in the supermarket?

Nope. So what’s the real difference?

A waitress or a cashier isn’t going to reject you. When it comes down to the nitty-gritty, none of us like rejection, but for most people it’s absolutely terrifying. But why?

I have no answer for that, it’s a mystery.

What I do know is that it’s easy to get over a fear of rejection. And the easiest way to do it is to become immune to it.

If you’ve ever played a contact sport, like football, or rugby, you’ll have become immune to being tackled and thrown to the ground, and probably stepped on and knocked around. If you’ve been sheltered and never played any sport, you’d be horrified by the thought of someone smashing into you, knocking you to the ground. It’s the same with rejection.

Aim to get rejected 10 times a day and you’ll be used to it in no time. Haha, just kidding, but that is essentially the secret to having no fear of approaching women. I’ve been rejected so often that I don’t care any more, I just move on.

Imagine if you could go up to that hottie you saw at the gas station and actually speak to her. It would be awesome. Imagine if you spoke to every fuckable woman you saw. Sure you’d get rejected, and often, but sometimes you wouldn’t get rejected and then you’d have options. You wouldn’t have to be scrabbling around for a date or worrying about where your next shag was coming from.

Make every effort to speak with strange women, that’s ones you haven’t met, not weird ones, stay away from them. Wherever you go there are going to be attractive women. Say Hi to that sexy cashier, use her name, ask her how she’s doing. Smile in a friendly fashion. If she looks at you like you’re pond-scum, ignore her. If she is friendly back, raise the bar.

Speak to that woman behind whom you waited in the gas station, don’t just smell her hair and wish you had the balls to talk to her.

If you don’t take the chance, you have failed.

If you take the chance and are rejected, you’ve become that much more immune to rejection.

If you take the chance and aren’t rejected, raise the bar, ask her out and give yourself a mental high five.

The only thing that’s stopping you from becoming a legend with women is your own inertia. Make the effort every day and your little black book will soon be stuffed with options.

How To Write The Perfect Online Dating Profile

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Why do you need an awesome online dating profile?

We already know that online dating is a goldmine of potential. That doesn’t mean it’s easy. In fact if you do it wrong, it can seem downright demoralizing. Initially it can be difficult to get a reply when you send mails and if you have your heart set on a particular woman you can easily be let down and decide that online dating is actually worthless.

You need to approach online dating with a particular mindset:

If a woman doesn’t respond to you, don’t take it personally
Don’t believe a word on any profile you read
The numbers game will make you successful.

The first thing you’ll need to kick some online dating ass is a great online dating profile.

Now if you look on the big dating websites like SinglesNet or Match.com, they’ll give you loads of advice about listing your likes and your hobbies and really trying to match you up with the perfect person, blah blah. You’ll want to ignore that nonsense.

Unless you are the type of guy who wants to settle down and smoke a pipe by the fireplace in his slippers, there’s only one reason you want to meet women online…To get laid!

So the perfect woman for you is – a woman you find attractive. Forget her hobbies and her interests, you won’t be spending more than a couple of weeks with her anyway, and what she’s written on her profile is probably bullshit anyway.

Writing Your Online Dating Profile

Here’s some definite DONT’S for your profile:

DON’T start off by writing ‘ooo I don’t know what to write here’ or ‘this is difficult, I’ve never been good at selling myself’. You sound weak and indecisive.
DON’T list all the triathlons you’ve done and all the dozens of sports you do. A couple is fine. You want to sound athletic without going over the top.
DON’T talk about how great your car is or how big your penis is (she will assume it isn’t).

DO:

Be totally different. Look at your pathetic competition and go the opposite way.
Be cocky and funny, tease a little. For example on one of my profiles I noted that I didn’t want to meet someone who since her most recent photograph had lived on a diet of pizzas and cheesecake and cut her own hair with nailclippers. Dozens of women included that in their mails to me, stating that they didn’t do those things. Women want a bit of back and forth banter, not endless boring questions about what they do for a living and where they went on their last vacation.
Ensure that your profile pic has you smiling or at least looking cocky. Don’t take yourself too seriously, because women will think you’re a player at best, or a dickhead at worst. Have all your clothes on in your photographs.
Spell-check. While you might still want to bang that hottie who writes ‘lol’ at the end of every sentence, women are a little more picky.

Be unique, get a critique of your online dating profile from some females you know and get yourself out there.

How To Ask A Girl Out

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It’s common sense time. How to ask a girl out is totally a matter of common sense.

This plagues men, every day, everywhere. You want to go out with a girl you know, but you don’t seem to have the guts to ask her out. You take so long trying to build up the courage that someone who is less worried has already slept with her.

You need to think to yourself:

What is holding me back from asking out this woman?

Or more in the spirit of things.

What is stopping me asking out all the women I want to go out with?

It’s fear. Fear of rejection.

Only 1 way over it. Get used to it. Rejection is nothing. Get rejected. Move on. Be pleasant, be polite. Move on. There are millions of fish in the sea.

So, to maximise the ‘yes’ answer and also to see if you really do want to date a particular woman, some tips:

How To Ask A Girl Out

At least know her name and have done some spadework, no matter how minor.
Does she drink? No point asking a teetotaller out for a drink, or an alcoholic for that matter, go the coffee route. Don’t be tempted to do dinner. You might think a girl who drinks will be easier to bang, but not necessarily.
Make sure you are presentable. No snot hanging from your nose, no bad breath, no spinach in your teeth.
Don’t just march up and blurt it out, be subtle for heaven’s sake.
Know exactly where you will suggest (close to your place, which should be clean and tidy. If she’s unsure about dropping her panties on your filthy floor you haven’t got much hope of getting laid). Nothing ruins a killer proposal quicker than you looking like a wimp and saying ‘wherever you want to go’. Preparation is key. Have in mind a venue, a date, a time.
Say Hi, make some minor small-talk, ‘you fancy a drink one night? Yes, cool, how about tomorrow, Venue X? Ace, 7ish suit you?’
Swap numbers, have yours memorized please.
Piece of cake.

SO, that’s a few basic tips on how to ask a girl out. You gotta get over those nerves and trust me, the only way, is to keep plugging away. You’ll be nervous a couple of times and then it will be like taking candy from a baby. When you get a ‘no’ it won’t phase you at all. You will be untouchable.

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