Where To Go On A First Date

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Where To Go On A First Date

You might be thinking ‘What’s the big deal, I know where to go on a first date.  Just go for a meal and see how it goes’.  Bad move.

On a first date you haven’t got much idea about the person you’re going out with.  They could have poor table manners, and then where would you be?

Think about what you want from a first date…

  • Get to know the person a little
  • Have some fun
  • First date sex

I would say that covers the average desires from the regular guy.

Now, compare that to what a woman may well want,

  • Get to know the person a little
  • Weigh up whether or not they are marriage material
  • First date sex if they are exciting but not marriage material

10 years down the line, married with children, your wife will let slip that she humped loads of guys on the first date, but made you wait until the 4th date.  While you’re offended by that, she didn’t want you to think she was a slut so she kept her legs together.



So, men and women are approaching this so differently you should keep in mind what women are actually doing when you decide where to go on a first date.

What message does taking her for dinner, and probably paying, on the first date, send?

  • I will spend my money on you
  • I’d rather eat than talk
  • You might be expecting some ‘payback’ for getting dinner, unless you go Dutch and then that’s just as bloody embarrassing.

You don’t want your date to think you’re safe.  If she thinks you’re safe, no matter how much she likes you, she won’t sleep with you.

where to go on a first date

Here’s where you want to get this woman – A Bar.

And why’s that?  Because alcohol makes women frisky.

Any other reason?  You’ll get to know each other a lot better without the distraction of food.

Why would you go for dinner instead?  You don’t drink, or you’ve got nothing to talk about.

If she doesn’t drink, go for coffee, or arrange a date with someone who does drink.

Now, this is really important:

Do NOT under any circumstance plan an elaborate, romantic date for someone you’ve just met.

  1. It won’t increase your chances of getting a shag
  2. You’ve wasted loads of money
  3. She’ll think you’re an idiot.

Here’s my personal first date process.

  • Arrange to meet at a cocktail bar.  No expense for taxi, or driving to collect her, you can get there early and liquor yourself up a little in case she’s ugly.  A cocktail bar is great because you can wear a suit without standing out.  This will impress her and you have put no thought into dressing up.
  • Have 1 drink, which I buy, in case I owe her one and I don’t like her enough to stay.  If you realise you do not like this woman, t’s easy, and more polite, to just say ‘I’m sorry, I don’t believe we can hit it off, I’ll be going now’.  I make this decision after my first drink, and here’s the clincher…I tell the woman I am doing this.  During the first drink I mention that, ‘you know, it’s ok if I’m not quite what you expected, let’s just say if we don’t seem compatible we’ll stay for one drink and then leave.’  Then, if I realise she’s awful, I’ll just say goodbye after drink is finished and then walk off.  Or, if I do like her, offer to buy another drink.  She’ll say, ‘no, it’s my turn’ and then you have a much better chance of scoring with her, as she’s spent the last 30 minutes panicking, thinking you don’t like her.
  • Make sure you sit NEXT to her, not across the table.  Make lots of physical contact without being a creepy weirdo and make her laugh.  Kiss her unexpectedly and give her loads of smoldering looks.
  • Don’t get too drunk.

If there is ANY doubt about whether she will let you have sex with her, don’t try.  You’ve already made it obvious you want to screw her brains out, but if she refuses you as ‘it’s too early, what sort of woman do you think I am?’ (don’t say, obviously I think you’re a slut, why do you think I asked you out?), then you have a lost a little bit of your control.

You can wait, and besides you date woman all week, after 2 weeks of dating several women a week you’ll have more sex than you can shake a shitty stick at.  So when you’re deciding where to go on a first date, think of that!

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