The Best Places To Meet Women – The Office
Where are the best places to meet women? If you are ‘lucky’ enough to work in an office, you’ve got your answer already.
You always hear people saying that you shouldn’t get involved with people at the workplace. Well, they don’t know what they’re talking about.
It’s true enough if you’re the sort of person who will fall apart due to a break-up that you should probably avoid office romances, but for the rest of us, it’s the perfect place to meet women.
Roughly 1 in 6 married couples meet at work, so it plainly is a good idea.
Why the office is also one the best places to meet women is that women look fantastic in business dress. And generally, there are a lot of them in the office environment.
So, how to meet these women?
This is the best part. You probably know at least one woman you’d like to get with already. And if you’re like the average guy, you haven’t asked her out yet. Seeing a woman every day gives you the ultimate opportunity to get to know her, ask her out, etc.
You know how you and your buddies check out the babes in the office, and compare notes? Well, women are worse. You can bet that most of the women in your workplace have an opinion of you as a mate. And the opinion you don’t want is…
That you are her friend!
You’ll need to cultivate a slight amount of mystery, but still be friendly. Cheeky and still respectful. Interested but not desperate.
Opening a conversation with a woman in your office couldn’t be easier. Think about it. You work for the same company. Ask her what she does, unless you know already. Ask her how her job is, give her an ear to bitch about her boss.
It’s the easiest thing in the world to ask a woman out with whom you work. A simple, ‘would you like a drink after work?’ will suffice and you’ve got nothing to lose.
Don’t blurt it out from nowhere. Slip it in during a personal conversation. People are constantly asking each other what they’re doing this weekend. Just say, ‘are you doing much this week? Well why don’t you join me for a drink tomorrow night?’ It’s cake.
And if she says no, take it well. Laugh it off. Don’t let it affect your manner towards her. If she doesn’t like your manner, she will make it clear. In fact if you take it on the chin and remain positive, without sulking like a little girl or ignoring her, it may well change the way she views you.
A small word of warning - Asking out a subordinate may not be the best idea. She may feel obliged to go out with you and a gentleman doesn’t coerce a lady in that fashion.
TLDR: Suck it up and ask out lots of women in the workplace, but avoid them if you are in a position of authority over them.
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Even people who don’t know that I pass along this sort of advice always tell me that they don’t know where to meet women. People who are perfectly reasonable, with good jobs and a lot to offer a woman, complain that they can never meet any.
Well, that’s ridiculous.
Never one to mollycoddle people, I can just about point anywhere in public and there are women. After all, they make up about 50% of our species, and they have the same need to procreate that we do.
The reason, I think, that men find it difficult to meet women is because they don’t open their eyes or broaden their horizons.
Here’s a good example. I worked on a project with a woman, years ago, who simply got on my nerves. She was loud and bossy and really annoying. She wore knee-length skirts and big flouncy blouses, always had her hair tied back in a severe bun and wore black rimmed old-fashioned glasses. She always insisted on working with me and I just wanted her to go away. One day she pestered me so much to join her and some other colleagues at a bar to watch football that I relented. After sinking a few to dull what I believed would be a painful experience, I met up with her and boy was I surprised. Gone were the glasses and dowdy clothes. She wore a little black number and the reason for the big blouses became clear; she had massive breasts. I screwed her senseless for 4 months until she had to get married.
The morale of the story…There are potential conquests around that you just don’t see.
I don’t know about your personal tastes, but to me only the extremes are unattractive. Even the plainest girl can look smokin’ hot with a bit of make-up, some 4 inch heels and a bikini. The very fat or the very skinny, the really ugly or the very old. Those types I don’t want to sleep with, but otherwise you can be plainly surprised. A true gentleman will keep an open mind. Just remember:
You don’t look at the mantlepiece whilst you are poking the fire
So, this post hasn’t been so much about the exact locations of where to meet women, but to realise that there are women everywhere.
Something I’d like to cover in more depth soon are the exact places where I have been successful in meeting women and places which may seem great but have been fraught with disaster for me. For now, in brief, here’s a few…
The Workplace – People always say that office romances are a bad idea. What utter nonsense. Something like 30% of people meet their spouse at work. And if you work in a sizeable company, there are dozens of women to get to know. It may be uncomfortable when you dump her, or she dumps you, but if you want to live the life of a lady’s man, you have to learn to deal with that.
Fitness Clubs – Not only are women-super vulnerable at these places, many of them actually go there to meet men.
Supermarkets – How can you fail to think of something to speak to her about? You may strike out a lot at a supermarket, but can you say the word MILF?
Bars – Yes, even in bars there are women looking to meet you.
The Internet – A billion people on the internet. There’s gonna be a fair few women in your area and they are very easy to meet.
Take off your blinkers and look around. You need the predator’s attitude. Every woman is fair game, with notable exceptions, so look at the women you know. Would you rather bed them, or be friends with them? If you want to be their friend, then take advantage. Insist you guys go out and she must bring a single friend. Women love match-making, but be aware that if you screw her friend over, it will affect your relationship too, so be smart when you want to move on.
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You might be thinking ‘What’s the big deal, I know where to go on a first date. Just go for a meal and see how it goes’. Bad move.
On a first date you haven’t got much idea about the person you’re going out with. They could have poor table manners, and then where would you be?
Think about what you want from a first date…
- Get to know the person a little
- Have some fun
- First date sex
I would say that covers the average desires from the regular guy.
Now, compare that to what a woman may well want,
- Get to know the person a little
- Weigh up whether or not they are marriage material
- First date sex if they are exciting but not marriage material
10 years down the line, married with children, your wife will let slip that she humped loads of guys on the first date, but made you wait until the 4th date. While you’re offended by that, she didn’t want you to think she was a slut so she kept her legs together.
So, men and women are approaching this so differently you should keep in mind what women are actually doing when you decide where to go on a first date.
What message does taking her for dinner, and probably paying, on the first date, send?
- I will spend my money on you
- I’d rather eat than talk
- You might be expecting some ‘payback’ for getting dinner, unless you go Dutch and then that’s just as bloody embarrassing.
You don’t want your date to think you’re safe. If she thinks you’re safe, no matter how much she likes you, she won’t sleep with you.
Here’s where you want to get this woman – A Bar.
And why’s that? Because alcohol makes women frisky.
Any other reason? You’ll get to know each other a lot better without the distraction of food.
Why would you go for dinner instead? You don’t drink, or you’ve got nothing to talk about.
If she doesn’t drink, go for coffee, or arrange a date with someone who does drink.
Now, this is really important:
Do NOT under any circumstance plan an elaborate, romantic date for someone you’ve just met.
- It won’t increase your chances of getting a shag
- You’ve wasted loads of money
- She’ll think you’re an idiot.
Here’s my personal first date process.
- Arrange to meet at a cocktail bar. No expense for taxi, or driving to collect her, you can get there early and liquor yourself up a little in case she’s ugly. A cocktail bar is great because you can wear a suit without standing out. This will impress her and you have put no thought into dressing up.
- Have 1 drink, which I buy, in case I owe her one and I don’t like her enough to stay. If you realise you do not like this woman, t’s easy, and more polite, to just say ‘I’m sorry, I don’t believe we can hit it off, I’ll be going now’. I make this decision after my first drink, and here’s the clincher…I tell the woman I am doing this. During the first drink I mention that, ‘you know, it’s ok if I’m not quite what you expected, let’s just say if we don’t seem compatible we’ll stay for one drink and then leave.’ Then, if I realise she’s awful, I’ll just say goodbye after drink is finished and then walk off. Or, if I do like her, offer to buy another drink. She’ll say, ‘no, it’s my turn’ and then you have a much better chance of scoring with her, as she’s spent the last 30 minutes panicking, thinking you don’t like her.
- Make sure you sit NEXT to her, not across the table. Make lots of physical contact without being a creepy weirdo and make her laugh. Kiss her unexpectedly and give her loads of smoldering looks.
- Don’t get too drunk.
If there is ANY doubt about whether she will let you have sex with her, don’t try. You’ve already made it obvious you want to screw her brains out, but if she refuses you as ‘it’s too early, what sort of woman do you think I am?’ (don’t say, obviously I think you’re a slut, why do you think I asked you out?), then you have a lost a little bit of your control.
You can wait, and besides you date woman all week, after 2 weeks of dating several women a week you’ll have more sex than you can shake a shitty stick at. So when you’re deciding where to go on a first date, think of that!
Read MoreWhere To Meet Women – Bars – The Ultimate Numbers Game
If anyone wonders where to meet women and doesn’t think of bars as their first port of call, then something is desperately wrong.
The whole point of socialising in a crowd is to mingle with the opposite sex. If they’re friends, platonically, if strangers, romantically.
Bars are 100% perfect for this as there is an added ingredient which makes the entire concoction explosive – Alcohol.
That’s no secret.
- Champagne is specifically designed to get women’s panties off
- Beer was invented so ugly chicks could get laid.
- Any alcohol can dull the pain of a break-up and also help you forget your indiscretions. And anyone who tells you that they have nothing to be ashamed of is either lying or needs to get out more.
As ever, I’m not advocating the use of alcohol to get women into bed, but it is a fabulous social lubricant, which will definitely help you get laid more often than if everyone just drank coffee. And coffee shops are not somewhere to meet women unless you like them pretentious and armed with a laptop.
Saying that, you would think then that women who take drugs would also be a prime target for the swordsman, but no. Just no. Stoner chicks are of no use, they just wanna score their next smoke. Trippy raver chicks just wanna dance for 24 hours straight and chicks who do coke will do anything, but they’ve done everything with anyone who’ll give them drugs so unless you are super desperate stay away.
Bars are great for picking up women. There are lots of them and they’re under the influence of alcohol.
But
You still need to have what it takes to go and meet them.
Just go up to whichever woman/women you want to meet and say ‘hi, are you having a good time?’ It’s not a clever chat-up line, it’s just an opener to get the conversation started. And you know why this works? Because those women know why you’re going over to speak with them.
And in fact, unless you’re a total dick, or they have very high opinions of themselves, they want to meet new people. It’s not very often you’re going to approach women in this friendly and open fashion and they tell you to get lost. They might not stay long, but socialising is all about meeting people. Just make sure that at least one of those women wants to meet you again.
And that’s not so difficult. Breaking it into quantifiables, women want something from a man, so what would that be? Well, I don’t know everything, especially about women as they are a mystery even to themselves. However, in my experience, here are some things that will make a woman want to spend time with you…
- You’re good looking. Yes, women are as shallow as we are, so play on that, but look manly, don’t be going out with make-up on. Unless you’re into goths and then go right ahead.
- You are obviously loaded. Power is an aphrodisiac, and money means power. And you can buy them stuff.
- You’re funny and/or interesting. Be funny, cocky, cheeky, but learn how not to go overboard with that. There’s a fine line between being amusing or entertaining and being a fool. Go too far and you’ve lost your woman.
Even if you’re not any of the above, and you should be working towards at least one of them if you want to be a lady’s man, pretend to be for the purposes of getting laid.
So if you’re ever wondering where to meet women, just head out to the nearest bar, get some Dutch courage, and mingle.
Casanova out.
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