Much of the book is common sense, but a lot of it will seem counter-intuitive at first, but once you start getting into the mindset and actually seeing how it works you’ll kick yourself for not being more assertive in the first place.

I’m gonna run through the salient (for me anyway) points in DYD and tell you why you NEED this book.

Cocky and Funny

I’m not a fan of this phrase, but I guess that’s what David felt was the best way of putting this across. There is a certain personality type which attracts women instantly on a superficial level. Cocky and funny epitomises this.

Cocky – Sure of yourself, a little arrogant. Think about what this says about you to a woman. It says that you are an alpha male, powerful and comfortable in your own skin (which is super-important for women).

Funny – Needs no explanation. Why is this important? When you meet someone that makes you smile, or laugh, how do you feel about them. You want to be around them more.

Combine the two traits and you have someone that women want to be around and find almost irresistibly attractive.

It’s simple human psychology, but the process of developing those traits is not so simple. It takes some work, but virtually anyone can do it. Look at David D’Angelo. If he can pick up loads of chicks, anyone can.

Not Fawning Over Women

For someone like me, this is obvious, but only because I’m an unfriendly sort of guy deep down. It’s difficult for me to be naturally polite so I often come across as dismissive.

This to a woman, is often a sign of a challenge, especially when other men are falling at her feet. I’m like this because of Rudyard Kipling’s famous phrase ‘A woman is just a woman, but a good cigar is a smoke’, which is not to say that I have no respect for women, because I certainly do, but I’m not gonna bow down to one just because she’s attractive.

Women aren’t used to men who don’t fawn over them so are intrigued. And will make more of an effort to get with you!

As you can see being slightly rude and stand offish towards women aren’t what you might automatically think are the best ways to win them round and get them to go out with you. We’ve all spent years being brainwashed into being gentlemen and treating women like helpless princesses.

In reality, women don’t want to be treated like helpless princesses and gentlemen may be good for marriage, but they want a bad boy for one night stands.

That’s just two of the dozens of things that David teaches in Double Your Dating, albeit two of the biggest, and some are extremely valuable.

Along with the behavioural changes he recommends, there are dozens of real life examples of average guys and their successes. And it’s not just a simple book, although you can get everything you need from the basic book, there are DVD’s and specialist literature if you need further tuition.

Normally I dismiss ‘pick up artists’ as I think most of them are simply charlatans, but not only is David D’Angelo an extremely astute student of human behaviour, he’s a terrific businessman and great speaker.

There are 2 resources you should use first when embarking on your journey as a lady’s man, this website is one of them, and the other, DYD. I’m being serious when I say that I sincerely hope that this Double Your Dating Review has given you the impetus to buy the book and get serious about having a flood of women at your door.

There probably is no ‘best way’ as nobody is gonna be happy at being dumped. But there are ways that inconvenience you less.

As we’ve already seen, there are clear indications of when a relationship has run its course, and in those situations, it’s definitely the best idea just to be a man and break up with her.

How to break up with someone is a skill that every lady’s man must have, if for no other reason than being able to be single at a moment’s notice when something better comes along.

So, there are many methods I’ve used in my life, but I would say that the best methods are possibly the harshest.

I will, at this stage, state that I believe that it’s ok to break up with someone for any reason whatsoever and you should feel no guilt. Everyone is a grown-up and capable of dealing with being dumped and if they’re not they shouldn’t be dating in the first place.

So, here are my methods…

How To Break Up With Someone

The One Sided Dumping

This is the one I have used to great success. It’s my favourite and I know it’s a bit mean, but I don’t make promises of a long-lasting anything to the women I will dump this way.

I have a set of things I want to achieve in any casual relationship with a woman. They’re all sex related so I won’t name them here, suffice to say, when I’ve accomplished those goals, I generally have no more need to be in a relationship with that particular woman. Generally this is anyone from a week to a couple of months down the line when I invariably get bored. With the one sided dumping technique, when I realise I’m bored, I just act as though I’m single. I don’t tell her, I just carry on as though we never met. I don’t respond to texts, emails, calls. Anything.

A lot of people are gonna say ‘oo that Casanova’s a real coward’, but no, he’s not. I don’t have to explain my actions to anyone. If a woman dumps me, which happens ALL the time, and never contacts me to tell me, I just move on. I reframe my perceptions so instead of whining like a baby, I think, ‘great, free time to do with what I wish’.

If you accept even one call or respond to one text or email, you’ll end up in a big mess, trying to explain why you don’t want to be with her any more. You don’t need that. Half the time they’re hysterical and angry and might even get violent or aggressive.

And here’s the awesome, and incredibly bizarre icing on the cake.

I’ve often met women I’ve dumped in this fashion further down the road and hardly any of them are angry with me. Sometimes I’ve even shagged them again. I guess if you’re not directly saying, ‘you’re ugly, you have bad hygiene, shit tits, crap in bed, terrible taste in music’ etc then they might not realise you don’t want to be anywhere near them and may develop a fantastical justification for your non-communication.

The Direct Approach

People who only ever have to break up with a couple of people in their lives will probably tell you that this is the fairest and kindest way of doing it. I don’t agree.

I certainly don’t like being on the receiving end of it. Having my faults dictated to me by a self-righteous ex is not my idea of a good time.

It’s simple though. You must say to the dumpee ‘we need to talk’. That’s an absolute must. Who cares if it’s a cliché, they’ll know exactly what’s gonna happen, so at least you’ve avoided the surprise freakout. Then just say, ‘look, this isn’t working. It’s not you, it’s me, I’m just not ready for a relationship like this. It’s been great and I’m sure you’ll meet someone better than me who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.’

Congratulations, you’ve hurt someone’s feelings and they’re right in front of you. And now you’ll have to go through hours of begging or recriminations or temper tantrums or any other number of negative behaviours.

The Jerk Method

Hmm, I have used this. Most of the time inadvertently.

Again it’s simple. Once you’re sick of her, act like you’re sick of her.

All the nice stuff you did for her when you were first trying to get into her panties. Stop it.

No more presents, don’t spend any money on her at all. Be selfish in bed. I’m sure you know how to do that. Wash less, demand she wear more make-up and be less accepting of her faults.

Check out other women openly. Ask her if she minds if you watch porn while you’re making love. Magazine porn. Over her face.

She won’t put up with this for too long, and the longer she does, the more of a jerk you become.

This method allows you to, rather selectively, avoid any guilt. All you’ve done is act like the jerk you really are, so whatever.

Those should cover all the ‘best’ ways of breaking up with someone. You might just say, ‘screw this’ and just send her a text message saying ‘cya bitch’ but then you should be ashamed of yourself.

Now, one thing you may not have bargained for are the feelings of guilt, loss, etc that can arise once you’ve dumped her. The best solution for that is to simply start seeing someone else, and in the meantime go out with your friends and have a ‘few’ beers.

Just think about it…

For the average guy, Christmas and the surrounding festivities are all about presents, family and partying.  We buy our loved ones lots of lovely gifts, we spend time with our families (mom, dad, siblings etc) and go out with our buddies and celebrate another year of not being dead.

For a woman, family means husband and babies, and there’s only going to be one way she’s gonna get that.

If you’ve ever seen The Mentalist, you’ll have seen the one where he tells his colleague that you can seduce any woman with ‘love and affection’ or the promises thereof. While that’s not strictly true, he’s got a good point. What he should have said was ‘make sure you have leverage and know how to use it.’

A lonely woman is a horrible thing to waste.

Christmas and the surrounding weeks can be very lonely times for people. It’s such a family oriented time, if you don’t have the requisite family, you may feel a little disenfranchised. I’ve been alone over Christmas, living in foreign countries, and there’s only 1 solution. Hit a bar!

Bars are packed at this time of year, and little stirs the mothering instinct in a woman more than a man who is without kith and kin over the holiday period.

So. You have 2 pieces of leverage…

• She’s lonely
• She feels bad because she thinks that you are lonely

This isn’t the place to tell you how to start a conversation with a woman, that’s covered elsewhere, but we’ll assume you have the courage of a grown man and can initiate dialogue with a woman.  One of the first things you want to know is ‘what are your plans for Christmas?’  Perfectly reasonable question.  Non-threatening.  No alarm bells raised.

1. She’s spending it with friends.  Excellent.   You are much more exciting than her friends.  Make a Christmas date.
2. She’s spending it with family.  Fucksticks, but what is she doing on New Years?  If she’s spending that with family too, find another woman pronto.

Advantages of Christmas Dates…

• They’re easy to convert into ‘why don’t we go back to my place for (insert traditional Christmas food here)’
• You can get away with buying her a racy gift.  Red hold-up stockings are an excellent idea.  They’re Christmassy and they’ll leave her in no doubt as to your intentions.  Also, they’re cheap.  Don’t get carried away with spending lots of money on what may well be a short-term shagfest.
• You have the loneliness leverage, encouraging affection.
• It’s the season of generosity.

On the 23rd of December, go to your local hotspot, and get Christmas Cracking (if you don’t understand the slang, it means hit on lots of women).  The winner is the one who scores on Christmas and New Year’s Eve!

Ho Ho Ho

Women judge you by all sorts of weird things, but there are a couple you can definitely do something about.  Your clothing is one of them.

As outfits go, until you get to know a women well, stick with 2 things:

• A suit
• Jeans and a shirt (either a t-shirt, nothing too tight, or a collared button down shirt, please avoid polo shirts)

As a man, when you first meet a woman, it’s face, breasts, legs.  When a woman meets you, it’s face, hair, shoes, clothing, crotch.

Shoes mean a LOT to a woman.  Make sure your shoes are always clean.  If they are smart shoes, ensure they are polished, and get into the habit of not scuffing your feet as you walk.

With jeans, wear some nice boots, not ones with heels or cowboy boots, and don’t tuck your fucking jeans in your boots.  If you can avoid wearing sneakers please do so, unless your first date is tennis.  You can get some fantastic casual boots that look very rugged.

A suit will never be out of fashion.  Ensure your jacket is not too long and don’t button it.  Have a cleaned, IRONED, shirt and only wear a waistcoat if you are trying to be super smart.

What a woman wears to a date tells you a lot about her and what she may be expecting from the date.  If at all possible, agree on the style of dress.  You don’t want to turn up in a suit, with her wearing a scruffy t-shirt and jeans.  Even worse, finding out you’re meeting in a cocktail bar and you come dressed in leisure wear.

Above all, clean and well maintained is the look you want to achieve.

Too groomed and she’ll think you’re gay at worst, vain at best.

Not groomed enough and she’ll be ashamed to be seen with you.  Not a promising start.

If you’re still not sure what to wear on a first date think about buying a guide on how to look your best.

There are books on the subject. People sell courses on how to perfect the ultimate chat-up line. It’s incredible. And I’m sorry to announce that they simply don’t work.

The wittiest, most incredible opening line ever conceived can just fall flat on its face. Women aren’t robots, they’re not computers you can program and elicit a pre-ordained response from a set series of instructions.

In fact they’re exactly the opposite. They’re unpredictable in their tastes, sometimes illogical and often irrational.

So how can you get around this? And how am I going to show you how to start a conversation with a woman.  Any woman.

First of all, you need to realise that knowing how to talk to girls is simple, it’s a numbers game.

If you want to be the sort of guy who meets women in unexpected places, who isn’t shy to ask any woman out and has a multitude of options on a Friday night, then you’ll need to be able to handle rejection. You could be Brad Pitt and have a 12 inch knob and women would still reject you. So when you start a conversation with a woman and you strike out, mentally shrug your shoulders and move on.

How To Talk To Girls

Secondly, and this is the easy, but strangely overlooked part, just say Hi.

Yup, any conversation can start with ‘Hello, how are you?’

Think about it. How have you greeted girlfriends in the past?

Did you say something juvenile, hoping to make her laugh so that she would talk to you? Obviously not. This however is the strategy of millions of men. That’s way more a random and stupid method than I would put my faith in.

Some dork once said ‘A stranger is just a friend you haven’t met yet’. Lame as it is, that’s totally true. When you start talking to these women, assume a certain degree of familiarity.

If you’re stuck after ‘how are you?’ then you probably need more help than I can give you, but let’s just say you do…

• In a bar – Would you like a drink?
• On the street – Call me forward but I’ll never get the chance to speak with you unless I do so now. Have you got time to grab a coffee?
• In a supermarket – You can always tell what a woman is like by what’s in her basket; will you show me your basket?

Those are just examples. Unless you are confident in your approach, asking a woman to show you her basket may get you a slap.

Remember to have a light manner and not be too serious. Smile and don’t leer. Ask her name, give her yours and shake her hand.

The final step – Get out there and do it!

You always hear people saying that you shouldn’t get involved with people at the workplace.  Well, they don’t know what they’re talking about.

It’s true enough if you’re the sort of person who will fall apart due to a break-up that you should probably avoid office romances, but for the rest of us, it’s the perfect place to meet women.

Roughly 1 in 6 married couples meet at work, so it plainly is a good idea.

Why the office is also one the best places to meet women is that women look fantastic in business dress.  And generally, there are a lot of them in the office environment.

So, how to meet these women?

This is the best part.  You probably know at least one woman you’d like to get with already.  And if you’re like the average guy, you haven’t asked her out yet.  Seeing a woman every day gives you the ultimate opportunity to get to know her, ask her out, etc.

You know how you and your buddies check out the babes in the office, and compare notes?  Well, women are worse.  You can bet that most of the women in your workplace have an opinion of you as a mate.  And the opinion you don’t want is…

That you are her friend!

You’ll need to cultivate a slight amount of mystery, but still be friendly.  Cheeky and still respectful.  Interested but not desperate.

Opening a conversation with a woman in your office couldn’t be easier. Think about it. You work for the same company. Ask her what she does, unless you know already. Ask her how her job is, give her an ear to bitch about her boss.

It’s the easiest thing in the world to ask a woman out with whom you work.  A simple, ‘would you like a drink after work?’ will suffice and you’ve got nothing to lose.

Don’t blurt it out from nowhere.  Slip it in during a personal conversation.  People are constantly asking each other what they’re doing this weekend.  Just say, ‘are you doing much this week?  Well why don’t you join me for a drink tomorrow night?’  It’s cake.

And if she says no, take it well.  Laugh it off.  Don’t let it affect your manner towards her.  If she doesn’t like your manner, she will make it clear.  In fact if you take it on the chin and remain positive, without sulking like a little girl or ignoring her, it may well change the way she views you.

A small word of warning - Asking out a subordinate may not be the best idea.  She may feel obliged to go out with you and a gentleman doesn’t coerce a lady in that fashion.

TLDR: Suck it up and ask out lots of women in the workplace, but avoid them if you are in a position of authority over them.

Women aren’t monsters who will claw your face off just for daring to speak at them, and let’s face it, the more nervous you are the less likely you are to make a good impression.

Essentially you’re speaking to a stranger, but most people don’t have a problem with that.  Unless they want to score with that stranger.  Do you get nervous when you ask a waitress for a drink?  Or say Hi to a cashier in the supermarket?

Nope.  So what’s the real difference?

A waitress or a cashier isn’t going to reject you.  When it comes down to the nitty-gritty, none of us like rejection, but for most people it’s absolutely terrifying.  But why?

I have no answer for that, it’s a mystery.

What I do know is that it’s easy to get over a fear of rejection.  And the easiest way to do it is to become immune to it.

If you’ve ever played a contact sport, like football, or rugby, you’ll have become immune to being tackled and thrown to the ground, and probably stepped on and knocked around.  If you’ve been sheltered and never played any sport, you’d be horrified by the thought of someone smashing into you, knocking you to the ground.  It’s the same with rejection.

Aim to get rejected 10 times a day and you’ll be used to it in no time.  Haha, just kidding, but that is essentially the secret to having no fear of approaching women.  I’ve been rejected so often that I don’t care any more, I just move on.

Imagine if you could go up to that hottie you saw at the gas station and actually speak to her.  It would be awesome.  Imagine if you spoke to every fuckable woman you saw.  Sure you’d get rejected, and often, but sometimes you wouldn’t get rejected and then you’d have options.  You wouldn’t have to be scrabbling around for a date or worrying about where your next shag was coming from.

Make every effort to speak with strange women, that’s ones you haven’t met, not weird ones, stay away from them.  Wherever you go there are going to be attractive women.  Say Hi to that sexy cashier, use her name, ask her how she’s doing.  Smile in a friendly fashion.  If she looks at you like you’re pond-scum, ignore her.  If she is friendly back, raise the bar.

Speak to that woman behind whom you waited in the gas station, don’t just smell her hair and wish you had the balls to talk to her.

If you don’t take the chance, you have failed.

If you take the chance and are rejected, you’ve become that much more immune to rejection.

If you take the chance and aren’t rejected, raise the bar, ask her out and give yourself a mental high five.

The only thing that’s stopping you from becoming a legend with women is your own inertia.  Make the effort every day and your little black book will soon be stuffed with options.

Well, that’s ridiculous.

Never one to mollycoddle people, I can just about point anywhere in public and there are women.  After all, they make up about 50% of our species, and they have the same need to procreate that we do.

The reason, I think, that men find it difficult to meet women is because they don’t open their eyes or broaden their horizons.

Here’s a good example.  I worked on a project with a woman, years ago, who simply got on my nerves.  She was loud and bossy and really annoying.  She wore knee-length skirts and big flouncy blouses, always had her hair tied back in a severe bun and wore black rimmed old-fashioned glasses.  She always insisted on working with me and I just wanted her to go away.  One day she pestered me so much to join her and some other colleagues at a bar to watch football that I relented.  After sinking a few to dull what I believed would be a painful experience, I met up with her and boy was I surprised.  Gone were the glasses and dowdy clothes.  She wore a little black number and the reason for the big blouses became clear;  she had massive breasts.  I screwed her senseless for 4 months until she had to get married.

The morale of the story…There are potential conquests around that you just don’t see.

I don’t know about your personal tastes, but to me only the extremes are unattractive.  Even the plainest girl can look smokin’ hot with a bit of make-up, some 4 inch heels and a bikini.  The very fat or the very skinny, the really ugly or the very old.  Those types I don’t want to sleep with, but otherwise you can be plainly surprised.  A true gentleman will keep an open mind.  Just remember:

You don’t look at the mantlepiece whilst you are poking the fire

So, this post hasn’t been so much about the exact locations of where to meet women, but to realise that there are women everywhere.

Something I’d like to cover in more depth soon are the exact places where I have been successful in meeting women and places which may seem great but have been fraught with disaster for me. For now, in brief, here’s a few…

The Workplace – People always say that office romances are a bad idea.  What utter nonsense.  Something like 30% of people meet their spouse at work.  And if you work in a sizeable company, there are dozens of women to get to know.  It may be uncomfortable when you dump her, or she dumps you, but if you want to live the life of a lady’s man, you have to learn to deal with that.

Fitness Clubs – Not only are women-super vulnerable at these places, many of them actually go there to meet men.

Supermarkets – How can you fail to think of something to speak to her about?  You may strike out a lot at a supermarket, but can you say the word MILF?

Bars – Yes, even in bars there are women looking to meet you.

The Internet – A billion people on the internet.  There’s gonna be a fair few women in your area and they are very easy to meet.

Take off your blinkers and look around.  You need the predator’s attitude.  Every woman is fair game, with notable exceptions, so look at the women you know.  Would you rather bed them, or be friends with them?  If you want to be their friend, then take advantage.  Insist you guys go out and she must bring a single friend.  Women love match-making, but be aware that if you screw her friend over, it will affect your relationship too, so be smart when you want to move on.

Disastrous!

Other than that, there are 2 other scenarios I can foresee:

1. You had a brief fling with someone perfectly nice but it just fizzled out for some random reason
2. You broke up with someone who has now come back and asked for another chance.

Let’s tackle those 1 at a time.

It often happens that you meet someone you quite like, maybe you only see them a few times but you get caught up with someone else, or are just too busy for any sort of relationship.  You then see them again and realise that this is the one that got away.   I can’t see anything wrong with pursuing that avenue at all.

Now, the second type of ex is a different kettle of fish.

You dumped her for a reason didn’t you?

Has that reason gone away?

Here are some reasons that may have gone away:

• You broke up with her because she had small breasts or was too fat.  She may have had a boob-job or lost weight and stopped eating cakes.
• She was married.  She may well have got divorced.

All very well and good.

Now here are the things that just don’t go away:

• She was controlling.  Why would you risk getting back into all that?  You should be doing everything you can to avoid a controlling woman.
• She was jealous.  She hasn’t stopped being jealous, no matter what she says.  But you won’t find out until it’s too late!
• She was aggressive or violent.  Leopards.  Spots.  This is an utter no-win for a man.  You can’t fight back, so you just gotta take a beating.  Nope. Stay well away.
• She was lousy in bed.
• She wasn’t very pretty.
• She was annoying.

None of these things have changed.  Our minds instinctively block out bad things.  Unless she was absolutely psychotic and put sugar in your gastank you might consider giving her another chance because you’re horny, or lonely, which you shouldn’t be if you’re paying attention to this website.

Resist the temptation.

Unless you’re Amish there are an unlimited amount of women out there.  If you’ve exhausted all the possibilities in your area, well done, high five, now move to a big city.

Go to BeNaughty immediately, sign up for free, and start meeting some women who you don’t know.  They might all be crazy, but you won’t know that for at least a week, so go have some fun and forget about your ex.

So my advice is, never get back with an ex for more than a night, and even that’s pushing it.

If you absolutely have to get back with an ex, don’t say I didn’t warn you and take the advice of someone who knows a bit about the subject.

Does it work? Of course. If you put the right effort into it.

Anyway, to the site…

It’s easy to join (FREE) and you don’t have to finish setting up your profile before checking out the babes. A couple of things are worth mentioning here…

• There’s no point not finishing your profile.
• Just have a picture of yourself ready for this sort of thing.
• Have a saved Word document with a ready made profile for yourself.  You know the sort of thing  – Headline, a bit about yourself and what you’re looking for in a woman.
• If you don’t upload a photograph BeNaughty hits you with a pop-up telling you how many messages you’ve missed because girls have passed you by.  Pretty good.

Once you’ve done this, it’ll take all of 5 minutes, you can then look around.
In my first 15 minutes I got an email from JulieJugs69 asking if I wanted to correspond.  So that was nice, and what is also nice is the sheer amount of women on the site.

If you’ve read my advice about online dating you’ll know that these aren’t all kosher, and that you have to play the numbers game to be successful.

Benefits of BeNaughty:

• Lots of women (it’s free for women)
• Forums and chatrooms readily available
• Easy to block people you think are ugly or psycho
• It can be cheap

Now, I wouldn’t recommend BeNaughty as a long term proposition, and this is why…

• It’s free for women so they’re less serious than paid sites
• Women tease men for sex when they know it’s all they want.  At least on a regular dating site women might think you want a relationship meaning they’ll be less flaky.

My advice is this…

• Join BeNaughty for FREE and take a look around.
• If you see enough girls you like in your area, join up for one of the shorter periods.  It’s a few bucks for a week and sometimes they have 1 or 3 day deals.
• Spam those girls with emails and play the numbers game.  It’s a blitz strategy and you can be very successful at it if you do it properly.  All it takes is that you dedicate some time to send out as many mails and have asa many conversations as possible, moving it ASAP to normal email and then phone/video chat and then a bar and then your bed.