How to start a conversation with a woman may be the most nerve-wracking and difficult thing a man may ever have to do. And you know what? There’s no reason for it to be so.
Women aren’t monsters who will claw your face off just for daring to speak at them, and let’s face it, the more nervous you are the less likely you are to make a good impression.
Essentially you’re speaking to a stranger, but most people don’t have a problem with that. Unless they want to score with that stranger. Do you get nervous when you ask a waitress for a drink? Or say Hi to a cashier in the supermarket?
Nope. So what’s the real difference?
A waitress or a cashier isn’t going to reject you. When it comes down to the nitty-gritty, none of us like rejection, but for most people it’s absolutely terrifying. But why?
I have no answer for that, it’s a mystery.
What I do know is that it’s easy to get over a fear of rejection. And the easiest way to do it is to become immune to it.
If you’ve ever played a contact sport, like football, or rugby, you’ll have become immune to being tackled and thrown to the ground, and probably stepped on and knocked around. If you’ve been sheltered and never played any sport, you’d be horrified by the thought of someone smashing into you, knocking you to the ground. It’s the same with rejection.
Aim to get rejected 10 times a day and you’ll be used to it in no time. Haha, just kidding, but that is essentially the secret to having no fear of approaching women. I’ve been rejected so often that I don’t care any more, I just move on.
Imagine if you could go up to that hottie you saw at the gas station and actually speak to her. It would be awesome. Imagine if you spoke to every fuckable woman you saw. Sure you’d get rejected, and often, but sometimes you wouldn’t get rejected and then you’d have options. You wouldn’t have to be scrabbling around for a date or worrying about where your next shag was coming from.
Make every effort to speak with strange women, that’s ones you haven’t met, not weird ones, stay away from them. Wherever you go there are going to be attractive women. Say Hi to that sexy cashier, use her name, ask her how she’s doing. Smile in a friendly fashion. If she looks at you like you’re pond-scum, ignore her. If she is friendly back, raise the bar.
Speak to that woman behind whom you waited in the gas station, don’t just smell her hair and wish you had the balls to talk to her.
If you don’t take the chance, you have failed.
If you take the chance and are rejected, you’ve become that much more immune to rejection.
If you take the chance and aren’t rejected, raise the bar, ask her out and give yourself a mental high five.
The only thing that’s stopping you from becoming a legend with women is your own inertia. Make the effort every day and your little black book will soon be stuffed with options.
